When I started Blended4Purpose, it was to participate in the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association October 2012 Challenge. I learned of CMBA from a button displayed on a website, to this day, I do not know how I found: Peaceful Wife’s Blog. I would read PWB’s daily post and my heart longed for the peace she had in her marriage. I knew and wanted to be a peaceful and respectful wife. I set myself on the journey in 2005 to become a peaceful respectful wife. I began to ask myself; What happened? Where and when did I fall off the wagon?
As I began to read the articles on CMBA’s Facebook Page Holy Spirit was quickening my heart to share my testimonies about the tests the Lord brought my family through. We overcome by the ‘word of our testimony’. As I began to write various articles, I found them to be therapeutic. I enjoy exposing the lies of the thief. He is a liar and the truth aint in him. I sound like my great-grandmother.
I discussed the articles’ I had written and planned to write with my husband. He supported me and before I could tell him they were therapeutic for me, he told me. I love me some him. He also cautioned me the time would come for opposing comments to my articles.
The time was today. I will not be responding to individual comments with a complete article, but I am lead to state my position once for all. I thank the Lord the opposing views are not harsh. One reader gave me an article to read to support her position. I read the article. I agree women are not inferior to men. I believe women should be educated, work, own property, serve in church and the military, if they chose. I would never want my daughters to enlist in the military, but that is my choice. I encourage my daughters to be entrepreneurs and pursue college degrees. #7 opened her own dog walking business at 8 years old. #3 earned the right to graduate a year early from Carnegie Mellon University, but she is choosing to spend 6 months working at ABC in California on an internship. #4 is attending North Carolina A&T University, pursuing a journalism degree. She can fix ANYTHING; she is excellent with her hands. She changes the brakes on her own car, performs the oil changes and shows me how to do things in the house she learned from her father. She is truly self-sufficient. #2 earned her B.A. and Master Degree as a single mother. #6 and #8, the Lord has not revealed his complete mold of them yet. J
I say all of this to say, I believe, if you are unmarried, you have complete rule and reign over your home and everything and everyone in it. If you are married, you have the right to tell your husband things you want and desire to see applied in your home, family and/or marriage, in a respectful manner. If your husband does not receive it, then it becomes an issue between him and the Lord. You have expressed yourself in a respectful manner and that is all you are instructed to do according to the Lord. We are to spend the time praying and fasting, not nagging our husbands and/or family. The final decision of your household, family, marriage, etc. in all areas rests with your husband as the head of your house. My daughters understand this completely. Marriage is NOT to be entered into lightly. #3 is adamant she will be married. #4 likes the fan fare that comes with having a wedding. #7 and #8 like wedding dresses and being pretty. They are 9 and 6 years old. I am not too sure where #2 stands on marriage. #6 is still feeling me out to see if she wants to follow in my footsteps.
My goal for Blended4Purpose is not to debate with my readers about their beliefs. Blended4Purpose motto is “Blending Families for God’s Purpose”. Our foundational scripture is Ephesians 5:33, “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband (NIV)”. Our goal, my family and I, is to let wives and children within blended families, who chose to live in accordance to God’s word to know they are not alone. There is help. You are not by yourself. Other’s have gone through this trial and come out victorious. You will be victorious if you faint not. No, you are not a sinner without help or hope. God is for you. He has sent laborers to help you and pray with/for you. I believe in marriage. I believe in families. I believe in God’s word. I am not where I want to be and I thank God I am not where I used to be.
Philippians 3:12-14: Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus (NIV).
When marriages fail: Families fail. Children fail. Communities fail. Societies crumbles.
